You would think that Mr. Potty Mouth, whom I went extremely easy on in terms of discipline for his actions, would be kissing my feet right about now, thankful that I didn't seriously nail his behind to the wall and go full throttle with pressing charges and/or expulsion.
Alas, his behavior has been worse than ever these last few days. I am finding it very, very, VERY hard to find anything to like about this child at all. It is making me feel like I should have been much harsher on him. He told me that his mom didn't do anything but talk to him. Not surprising because parents who are involved don't usually have kids who are a) failing everything and b) doing the things this child does.
Since mom speaks absolutely zero English, I have to always have someone else call her about things. So I emailed our home-school coordinator who, bless his heart, helped me translate this child's transgressions to his mom. I asked HSC to contact mom and remind her that as a stipulation of Mr. Potty Mouth's suspension, he is not coming on our field trip tomorrow. Her choice if she wants to keep him home or send him and I can leave him with work to do for the morning. I also asked him to let her know that Potty Mouth needs to return his summer school form and YES he needs to go. Then I threw in that his behavior has absolutely sucked the last few days.
Kids like him, who are 11 and just don't give a care in the world, frustrate me to no end. I can't stand it. I wouldn't have dared be so blase at their age. My parents would have kicked my behind big time. I know that is a lot of the issue -- parents today just are not like parents used to be. I am very strict in my classroom and also with my own kids. They don't get away with ANYTHING. It drives me crazy when parents are so passive and then wonder why their children are so messed up. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure it out!!
I have 3 boys in my class whom I will be absolutely AMAZED if they make it past 8th grade -- because in middle school, the crap that we put up with at elementary, won't be tolerated (not that it should be for us either!). These boys will be suspended all the time and/or in detention every single day. Their parents don't get it. And when the time comes, all I am going to do is shake my head and remind them that I tried to tell them. Since September, I have done everything I can to get these parents to understand I'm trying to help them to help their child. They just don't get it.
They just don't get it.